Pepper, you're only a few months old, but right now even some girls with pretty high standards don't dress modestly. Boobs are everywhere. I remember last summer, I saw a girl who was wearing shorts that curved up so I could see the crease in her butt cheeks. I'm pretty sure if she only wore regular underwear, it would have covered more of her back side - poor thing.
Looking back to my teenaged years, I can't recall a time when I was inappropriately dressed and thought, "Wow, I sure am glad that guy noticed me because he could see the twins." (or anything along those lines.) Those kind of guys may have been good looking or popular or seemed cool at the time, but really, they were not worth my time or admiration. Those kind of guys are only looking for one (or two) things.
However, I do remember thinking, "I just met this guy and I am wearing a bikini (first and only time), this is awkward. is he staring at my chest? can he tell I feel so awkward? can I go back and put on a shirt? I'm blushing because I'm embarrassed - will he notice if I start awkwardly blowing on my face?" I do remember thinking, "Seriously? I am literally wearing nasty shoes, jeans and a t-shirt, and a HAIRNET and I just got hit on by a major hottie." And, "Really? The 'guy who is my reason for going to the gym because I get to see him' guy thinks I'm cute when he's only ever seen me in BYU-Idaho approved workout attire (trust me, it was hideous)?" I do remember thinking, "Wow, I married an amazing man who tells me that I'm perfect only 8 weeks after having my second child. I feel like I look like a manatee, but he thinks I'm beautiful. Aww."
You don't need to dress hot or sexy because you'll be beautiful (just look at your mom ;). You will not have to attract people with the way you show off your body because you will attract them with your witty sense of humor, your brain, your smile, your kindness, your confidence, and your unwavering faith in a Heavenly Father who loves you because you're his daughter; and you respect yourself because you know all those things.
Darling, don't let social pressures overcome you. I promise you that you will never look back and wish that you had given in just that one time, just once, so you could feel like you belonged.
There are lots of randy men out there, but give The Good Ones credit.
I'm establishing this rule now: Within reason, I will give you money to buy cute clothes that cover up your body. If you want to buy anything that I don't approve of, you have to first pray about it, and then if you still feel okay about it, use your own money and pay me for it. Besides, if I don't approve of it, there is no way your dad is letting you out of the house wearing it.
I'm old. I've been where you are, I promise. Before I had kids, I had a rockin' body, too.
Be wise. Make your decisions before you have to make them. I love you and I want only the best for you.
Love, Mom.
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